For years I was in a relationship that did not compliment or push me the way that I believe I need and is meant for me. Once it ended, I began to hear what people may or may not have been saying to or about me for the years I was in the relationship. “You are better as friends. I saw your dynamic more as a friend to you not lover.” “You two want different things out of life. We knew it would not work.” Now, 6 months after it ended the light is brighter.

I understand almost exactly where they were coming from. I can see the entire experience in a different light and I can see what I want and need in other relationships. The experience was a learning one, as it should have been.

Now I feel I am being tested again. I am in a job where multiple people have already told is not right for me. “You are too smart for this place.” “This job is killing you.” Yes, I agree the job is killing me at times. Too smart for the place… not so much. My confidence is so drained I don’t feel this too be true, however ask me a few years ago and I probably would have agreed.

I sit and think about the life I would like to live. The horizon is bright and my opportunities have no end. But I can’t move. I am stuck. Analysis paralysis has me crippled. I think about it and think about it, and nothing.  I could just apply for another job. I could exit gracefully to go  somewhere else. But maybe I want a career change.

There is a person in my life whom I have always respected. He was in a similar career to me and in the matter of a few years excelled through the ranks and ended up in some very esteemed positions.

Then he gave it all up.

He quit.

A few bad experiences taught him he wanted something different.

I need that courage. I know I have it. I use it every time I paddle out. I use it every time I go to work. I just need to use it right now to propel me into something else. Let’s help each other out. Share your stories or courage or major changes in your life.